My father whether he knows it or not plays a big role in how I choose the men I date. As I transitioned from daddy's little girl to boy crazy in my adolescent years, "Daddy" would give me advice on what type of guys he thought were worthy enough to date his daughter. I still go by these rules to this day. I try to atleast.
"If a man doesn't walk you to your car, call you a cab, or walk you to the train/bus station, he doesn't care about your safety. A man should make sure his lady is safe and secure. A man's role is to protect you even if your situation is just as simple as one date."
"A firm hand shake signifies a confident man."
" A good man has a great work ethic."
"When the waiter/waitress brings the bill, a man will show you his maturity by the way he handles the tip."
"Pay attention to the way a man treats his mother because he will treat you the same way."
My father is not the type of father who is long-winded or who comes up with elaborate back-stories like Bill Cosby before he gets to the point of his lessons. A straight forward type of guy. I can remember bringing home a young man to meet my dad (very rare). I could tell my he had an opinion on this particular guy just by the look in eye.
"Sooooo , what do you think Daddy?"
"I need more time."
This was a first! We kept dating for a year or so before I asked my dad the same question.
"Sooo, what do you think Daddy?"
"I think that he is a good guy. He brings my daughter home safe, he takes off his hat when he comes in the house and is very well spoken. I can tell he loves you however; he will not marry you. If marriage or a strong commitment is what your looking for, keep looking."
He explained to me that a man knows what he wants out of a relationship within the first year maybe even sooner. If a strong commitment is what he is seeking out of the relationship he will have no problems making that move towards this goal. Makes you go hmmm...
Daddy was right.....
Voni V*I*P
1 comment:
Your dad seems like a good guy, It's funny how we as daughters have to "see for ourselves" even though we have men in our lives like your dad who can access a situation from the very start because he is a man! His been there and done that. Tell your dad I said hi.
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